The Essence of Who You Are.

Hello friends,

If you are receiving our emails, you have definitely heard this refrain: “Remember who you are and express that Truth as often as you can” as a response to challenging circumstances in our lives. 

At Conscious Choices, we all aspire to remember the Truth of Who We Are to help us express the most authentic aspects of ourselves as often as we possibly can. 

We believe that tapping into our most authentic selves and bringing the energy of this into all of our experiences not only increases the quality of our lives, but also the quality of the lives of everyone we come in contact with, directly or otherwise.   

We believe that as we become more aware of our Essence Selves and express this Truth in all our interactions, we raise our energetic vibration and that literally makes us feel better.  It also naturally attracts similar energy to us – this is the nature of the law of attraction.  This is not some new age “woo woo” idea; this is science, quantum physics:  like attracts like. 

But I imagine that most of you reading this already have a sense of this reality, even if you don’t understand the science of it…

Let’s get back to this idea of the Truth of Who You Are, that is, your Essence Self.  If we take the Stories away, and just look for the purest sense of your Divine Nature; the You that you were born to be; the Potential of all you may become.  

What would be there…?

If you are ready…take out a piece of paper and write across the top, “Essence of ______”  Fill in the blank with your name.

Underneath that, write, “I Am:”

Now begin to list all of the words that describe the goodness of who you are. 

And these are not words that describe your “roles,” such as “mother,” “brother,” “teacher,” “lawyer.”  But rather, words that describe the qualities of goodness in you…

Nor is this a list of words that describe your “imperfect” human personality self.  For instance,

  • I am lazy.
  • I am scared.
  • I am indecisive.
  • I am resentful.

Those adjectives belong on your Ego list, not your Essence list.  That is not to say that you will never, or shouldn’t ever, feel those qualities (you are Human after all!), they are simply, at least, one level removed from your  true Essence Self. 

Now, let’s get to the Essence of things!  Some of these Essence descriptors may come very easily to you.  Some of them may not.  But try these out for starters… 

  • I am kind.
  • I am intelligent.
  • I am loving
  • I am compassionate.
  • I am sincere.
  • I am generous.
  • I am patient.
  • I am empowered.
  • I am confident.
  • I am understanding.

energy-essenceGood, write them all down.  But don’t just gloss over each word.  Slowly…feel the quality of each of them as you write them.  Feel the energy of “Kind.”  Imagine yourself in an instance where you were expressing kindness effortlessly.  What did that feel like in your body, in your overall sense of the experience?

Do that for every word you write.  Feel each descriptive word’s flavor, its texture, its color, its vibration, its fragrance…As you do this, you are aligning yourself with the frequency of these Essence qualities.

Now, sometimes, words will also come up that seem to describe an Essence Quality, but they may instead point more to an Old Ego Story, rather than your true Essence Self

  • I am self-less.
  • I am loyal.
  • I am trusting.
  • I am easy going.

Feel the energy of each of these qualities.  Do they have a feeling of self-love at the root?  They might…

But give yourself a moment to really feel if they might instead be infused with some goal beyond just being? 

For instance, one of these goals of being “self-less” might be “I must give up parts of myself in order to be loved.”  Feel the energy of that…

Or, “In order to be accepted, I must be “loyal” no matter how others behave.”

What may swoman-fulltart out as an Essence Quality can shift into Ego Qualities depending upon what the motivation is…

Ego Qualities usually have a goal, and often an action attached to them; whereas Essence Qualities have no purpose other than to simply connect you to, and be an expression of, your deepest, most authentic core Truth.

To give you an example, this is the beginning of my own Essence List.

“Essence of Carol.”  I am:

  • Loving.
  • Compassionate.
  • Generous.
  • Kind.
  • Patient.
  • Understanding.
  • Confident
  • Empowered.
  • Connected.
  • Smart.
  • Funny.
  • Playful.
  • Sensitive.
  • Perfectly imperfect…

Although I do not express these qualities all the time,  I do know that they are all at my core; they make up the Essence of Who I Am.  Knowing this, when I find myself lost in an Ego Story, if I can take a conscious breath and find my center, I can always attempt to make a a more conscious choice to shift into Essence energy.  I can choose to transform my reaction into a reinfinite-love-2-400pxsponse that is more aligned with my Truth.

Once you start your list, keep adding to it as you remember new Essence qualities that you know you have, or that you would like to tap into more often.

The fact is, just like the sun hidden behind clouds, these Essence qualities are always there, you just may not be able to see or access them when they are blocked by an activated Ego Story. 

So even if you believe that “Patient” is not a quality that would describe you, if it is a quality you want to express, then it already exists within you (behind the clouds).  Put it on your list.

Of course once the clouds part, once you are able to take a conscious breath and center yourself, the Light can come through.   The Light of your true, authentic self can be expressed.

Once you remember who you are at your core, you can step into your Truth and choose to express those beautiful Essence qualities in any experience you have.

Having this Essence of Me list on hand can help you remember who you are; who you aspire to be and then express this as often as you can. 

Keep a copy with you to refer to when you get challenged and your Ego attempts to take over. 

Keep a copy by your nightstand to read every morning and hold an intention to be and express your Truth all day long. 

Read it every night before bed to infuse your sleep with your Truth all night long.

Your Essence is your Light. 

Let your Light guide your every Choice, this is how to make each of them Conscious.  With the Light of Consciousness shining the way, the quality of your life will expand…

Breathe consciously, remember these Truths and express them often:

I am brilliant;

I am magnificent;

I am a being of Love and Light.

I am here to bring my Essence Self to every experience of my Life.

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