I love you. Goodbye.

I love you.  Goodbye.

As we talked about last time, sometimes it is very obvious that a relationship needs to end; for the safety and well-being of all.  If there is violence in any way, if there is danger of harm that keeps us stuck and with little ability to make conscious choices about our lives.

Then, there are other types of relationships that may need some assessing, despite nothing so apparent as physical or emotional danger. 

Sometimes, after long periods of time, people just grow beyond one another; sometimes they grow in different directions.  Whether partners, friends or family members; people develop at different paces and in various ways.

Sometimes, despite the Love we feel, despite the Light we can see, despite the Time we have shared, sometimes the most Essence-centered Action we can take is to say goodbye.

Sometimes the Goodbye is a very distinct parting of ways.

Sometimes the Goodbye happens slowly as the space between us grows wider and wider.

Sometimes the Goodbye catches us by surprise.

But somewhere deep inside, if we listen really carefully, there may be a gentle murmur inside that reminds us we no longer resonate with the same frequency; we are no longer aligned.

Somehow, we know that our time together in this lifetime has come to an end.  Or at least that it is time to close not just the chapter, but the book of a particular relationship; and if we are to still be in one another’s lives in any way, a new one needs to be written.

It may be our relationship with a parent who can not extricate themselves from an Old Story that keeps all the family members stuck in unauthentic and damaging roles…

It may be a friendship with one or more people who have not grown beyond some of the Stories of our younger days that included much more unconscious, Ego-centered actions…   

It may be an intimate relationship which after times of familiarity, can no longer sustain the tension of each person’s drive toward self knowledge and authenticity, particularly if there is not enough common ground to hold the space between them…

These kinds of Goodbyes are never easy, and it can be difficult to sit with the mixed emotions that come with feeling the resonance of an Essence-centered decision to leave an old dynamic while also experiencing the very real pain of grief and loss.

Today let us honor all of our relationships, whether they are new ones that cannot withstand the tension of difference, or long-term ones with ever widening gaps of disconnection.  

May they be with friends, relatives, or beloveds; knowing that through them we have been given the chance to know ourselves better and given the opportunity to choose how we want live our lives…

Today let us be mindful of the level of maturity it takes to sit with the pain of grief as we may make a decision to shift out of an Old Story of a relationship that no longer nourishes us…

Today let us respect the unique journey of each person we have ever loved, even as we say Goodbye…

“So, old friends, now it’s time to start growing up, taking charge, seeing things as they are, facing facts, not escaping them, still with dreams, just reshaping them, growing up.”   ~Stephen Sondheim

Remember:

I am brilliant;

I am magnificent;

I am a being of Love and Light.

I am here to bring my Essence Self to every experience of my Life.

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Comments

  1. This was exactly what I needed today as our divorce becomes final. Thank you. You helped to fill some of my holes of sadness.

    • Carol Cirabisi says:

      I am sending you much love and light as you move through your feelings of sadness as you end one chapter of your life and open up to a new one. Many blessings to you and yours. ~Carol

  2. Kathryn Rushing says:

    Beautifully said Carol. Thank you.