When Terry Met Mel.
If you have been reading my weekly Conscious Inspiration emails, you know how captivated I am with Terry Real’s concepts of Relational Living!
For me, living from a connected and relational place is a powerful way to upgrade the quality our lives, not just personally, but for all of us, yes for all of humanity.
I know some of you really get it.
I also know that some of you follow author and podcaster, Mel Robbins; maybe you have read her book, Let Them? She has impacted so many lives with her idea that what other people think, say, and do is none of our business!
So, what a bonus last week when her podcast popped up on my YouTube queue, and lo and behold there was Terry Real sitting across from her for a conversation about relationships!
Married, Dating, or Single: The Best Relationship Advice You Will Ever Receive: Watch here.
I invite you to sit down and watch it. With your partner, your friends, your kids, your parents…anyone you care about who has an interest in wanting to get unstuck from the patterns that keep us living in meh. Or just watch it on your own and discover some invaluable information to help you shift!
Yes, I am sending you this link for a reason:
I truly believe that you, we all, have the potential to discover how to live our best lives.
Why else are we here?
Are we really here to struggle our way to what we perceive as success?
Maybe what we believe is the purpose of our lives: Get married, work hard, retire early, have successful kids, brilliant grand-kids, a big house, nice cars, fancy things, beautiful bodies, lot’s of money.
Only to feel bad about ourselves when things don’t go the way we planned them, or to feel anxious and completely stressed out about how to make sure we don’t lose these things?
We need to learn the things we were never taught. And maybe change our idea of why we are here and how live truly satisfying lives, from the inside out.
In the interview, Mel asks some great questions, and Terry offers inspiring and encouraging answers.
I encourage you to invest an hour, either by yourself, or with your partner and/or loved ones.
Start here.
Relational Living is much more than a therapy model.
It’s a way of understanding what it can mean to be a Human on a planet with 8 billion other humans, and how to make your experience full and rich, bursting with flavor and alive with joy.
Not as an individual all on your own, but together, connected and in relation with everyone around us. Especially those closest to us.
Not perfection. Not happy all the time. But at peace. More often than not.
If you can, watch the whole video, from start to finish…
And in the meantime, here are just a few time stamps in the recording with topics to inspire you:
Harmony, Disharmony…REPAIR:
14:13 The Relationship Skill That Most Lack.
Which Part of You is driving the Car? Wise Adult or Adaptive Child/Protector?
20:01 Why Childhood Trauma Hijacks Your Relationship.
Take a Break When You Don’t Know What To Do:
30:35 How to Have Tough Conversations and Solve Conflicts.
Example of the 3 Parts: Wounded Chile, Adaptive Chile/Protector, Wise Adult and what to do.
46:04 De-Escalating Relationship Conflict.
Do We Have to Get it Right All the Time?
53:15 What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?
Always and with much love, Carol
